Watching The Curious Case of Benjamin Button and The Bucket List recently made me realize I’m completely terrified of growing old, forgetting what I once knew and seeing what once were the most important things in my life wither into spotty memories. In the latter movie, Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, both riddled with cancer, compile a list of things they want to do before they “kick the bucket” and then proceed to execute said list. They jump out of an airplane. They see the pyramids in Egypt. They go on a safari. They, in short, experience. It’s not a great movie but a perspective-filled one. At one point, Nicholson says, “We live and we die and the wheels on the bus go round and round.”
We sometimes, I think, lose sight of the living part. Yes, I want to and will have children. I want to go on Wheel of Fortune to win some money to pay off student loans. I want to write a book and etcetera, etcetera (all those things I mentioned in the post below). We always talk about the things we’d love to do, focusing more on those someday aspirations than today’s. What about what we have done? What we’ve accomplished. What have you done already? And what are you happy that you’ve done?
Me, I’ve written cover stories. I’ve started a blog. I’ve shot a gun. I’ve gone fishing. I’ve interviewed legends and inspirations, some of them my own. I’ve gone over 150 mph in a car (well, shotgun). I’ve gotten speeding tickets and, subsequently, my license suspended. I’ve gotten wasted, wished I didn’t and then did it again. I’ve seen a Black man become president. I’ve fallen in love. I’ve gotten my heart broken. I’ve gotten four tattoos and two piercings. I took one out. I’ve witnessed two marriages–my mom’s and my dad’s. I’ve gotten stung by a bee. I’ve sung in a choir. I’ve modeled and auditioned for a play (as a kid). I’ve taken ballet. I’ve inspired at least one person through my writing. I’ve played in the snow. I’ve changed my style. I’ve seen the great playwright August Wilson AT an August Wilson play months before his death.
I’ve had no regrets. So I’m thinking growing old isn’t half bad…especially the growing part.
What have you done? (Seriously…I want to hear from people lol)

I have….
, been there for a friend in need, jabbed a q-tip in my ear, had that same friend take care of me, interviewed legends, had the best chicken pizza ever made, turned 25, been inspired by a dopepenman….
Driven through downtown Philly blasting “Push it”, witnessed the great Kay Yow beat Temple women in bball, saw dawn staley coach at Temple before she left, meet america’s first black prez
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I saw Dawn Staley walking down Liacouras Walk when I was at temple, stopped her and got her autograph on looseleaf paper. ha
I have…
- fallen in love.
- forgiven someone after they broke my heart.
- heard the first Black president speak twice, BEFORE he became the first Black president.
- while on the subway, witnessed someone read something I wrote and look pleased about it. (Now, that’s some good ish!)
- had the chance to watch my nieces and godchildren grow up into such smart little people.
- learned to appreciate my parents tremendously for the way they raised me.
- quit my job and moved to London by myself.
- had the chance to meet Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee together before Ossie passed away.
I discovered your blog today by reading Aliya S. King’s blog. I love discovering good writers. I’m a rewrite pro, but I do outline. Your posts are wonderful. I particularly love your blog art (tattered books) since I use the same one on my newly launched blog: http://www.storiesofstuff.wordpress.com
Since I’m much older than you and all your readers, I have maintained and accomplished many things on my 100 To Do Before I Die List.
I have:
-worked on several political campaigns;
-worked on a Broadway play;
- attended the Cannes Film Festival 3 times;
- attended the Tony Awards;
- worked at the White House;
- flown in a hot air ballon;
- met with Nelson Mandela
- written speeches;
- launched my blog and helped my mother launch hers (www.randomwisdom.wordpress.com)
- been married 10 years (hooray!!)
- pretty happy about life
To do:
–write my children’s book;
- continue experiencing life..